Different parents have different reactions to learning that their children might be experiencing bullying (欺凌). Some may believe that the bullying is a way to “ toughen them up ” . Others might become so angry that they want to face the bullies themselves or may push their children to fight back. 3 1 It ’ s much better to try to calm yourself down and find ways to solve the problem. Here are some suggestions that experts recommend. Talk about bullying. One of the best ways to help your bullied child is to simply talk about bullying. Not about their bully specifically or the trouble they ’ re going through, but why bullying happens, how bullies typically work, and what they can do to make it stop and help others. They also need to understand that bullies are never be blame for bullying because far too many of them can feel guilty and even become depressed. 3 2 3 3 A lot of kids won ’ t be comfortable coming to their parents for help for a variety of reasons, so it ’ s important that you do everything you can to show them that talking to you about a problem is something safe. Make sure they know that you care and that you ’ re willing to listen no matter what, but don ’ t press them for information or they might retreat further into themselves. Document everything. 3 4 School authorities will often want proof if you go to them with accusation, and the court will certainly need it if it gets to the point that you need to make it a legal matter. Just as importantly, hanging on to things like e-mails can really help if your son or daughter is being targeted by anonymous bullies, because authorities sometimes use that information to track down the bully. Go to officials. Letting bullying go too far can lead to all kinds of potential physical and psychological damage. 3 5 Meetings like this can go one of two ways—you can focus on the problem by yourself and make actions against the bullies, or you can work with school officials to start programs that education their students about bullying and seek to control it in the school. A. Keep an eye out for your child. B. Make yourself available to your child. C. These choices are rarely the right way to handle bullying. D. Sometimes you have to go to school officials to get it stopped. E. You have a number of options available to you depending on your personality. F. If there are records of your child being bullied, it is vital to hold on to the evidence. G. In this way, you can arm your child with information they can use to solve the problem.