I don’t know anyone who has been handed only roses. We all encounter hardships. Some we see coming; others take us by surprise. 8 The question is: When these things happen, what do we do next? When someone is suffering, we need to follow the Platinum Rule: 9 Put ourselves in other’s shoes and respond with understanding or better yet, action. 10 It comes from deep within us and from support outside us. It comes from gratitude for what’s good in our lives and from leaning in to the suck. 11 I learned that when life pulls you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. Although it can be extremely difficult to grasp, the disappearance of one possible self can free us to imagine a new possible self. After tragedy, we sometimes miss these opportunities because we spend all of our emotional energy wishing for our old lives. As Hellen Keller put it, “ 12 But often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” A. It can help a person step out of the trouble. B. Treat others as they want to be treated. C. When one door of happiness closes, another opens. D. Death ends a life, but it does not end a relationship. E. Another way you answer it depends on your ability of recovery. F. It comes from analyzing how we process grief and from simply accepting that grief. G. It can be as tragic as the death of a child, or as disappointing as a dream that goes unfilled.