【多选题】Which details from the text are intended to illustrate the point that he was somewhat remote from his children?
A.
In the day and a half before the funeral, he went around the neighborhood researching his father, asking the neighbors what he was like.
B.
She lives near her mother and they are close, but whenever she was alone with her father, in a car driving somewhere, they had nothing to say to each other.
C.
"Missing him all these years," she must have given up part of herself which had cared too much for the man. She would be "well taken care of".
D.
He was the one who tried to grab at his father, and tried to mean enough to him to keep the man at home.