You may be spending far too many of your present moments in efforts to win the approval of others, or in being concerned with some disapproval that you have encountered. We all enjoy applause, compliments and praise, and approval in itself is not unhealthy. Approval-seeking is a misleading zone only when it becomes a need rather than a want. If you want the approval, you are simply happy to have the recognition of the other people. But if you need it, you are going to collapse if you don’t get it. That’s when the self-destructive forces move in. Similarly, when approval-seeking becomes a need, you give up a chunk (相当大的数量) of yourself to the“outside person”whose advocacy (拥护) you must have. If they disapprove, then you are immobilized (使丧失机动性)( even in a small way ) . In such a case, you have chosen to wear your self-worth on your sleeve for someone to rub or not to rub as they see fit. You feel good inside only if they decide to administer some praise to you. The need for approval of another person is bad enough, but the real trouble comes with the need for the approval of everyone for every act. If you carry around such a need, then you are bound for a great deal of misery and frustration in your life. Moreover, you will be incorporating a wish-washy (软弱无力的) non-person self-image that will result in the kind of self-rejection. The need for approval must go! No question makes there. It must be eradicated from your life if you are to gain personal fulfillment. Such need is a psychological dead end, with absolutely no benefits to you.