But if you look at what we've done, if you have the 1 _________ to really look at it, you’ll see that not only do our kids think their 2 ______ comes from grades and scores, but that when we live right up inside their precious developing minds all the time, like our very own version of the movie "Being John Malkovich," we send our children the message: “Hey kid, I don't think you can actually 3________ any of this without me.” And so with our 4_____, our overprotection and overdirection and hand-holding, we deprive our kids of the 5_______ to build self-efficacy, which is a really fundamental tenet of the human psyche, far more important than that 6_________ they get every time we applaud. Self-efficacy is 7________when one sees that one’s own actions 8____________ outcomes, not—There you go. Not one’s parents actions on one’s behalf, but when one’s own 9_______ lead to out comes. So imply put, if our children are to develop self-efficacy, and they must, then they have to do a whole lot more of the 10 ______, planning, deciding, doing, 11________, coping, trial and error, dreaming and 12 ____________ of life for themselves.