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achieving K. adhered L. considered M. gorgeous N. absurd O. handsome I was once in a relationship with a woman who was the most brilliant, creative and driven person I'd ever known. I told her these things often because she didn't see herself this way, despite (1)________ great success and acclaim in her professional field. She was also (2)_________and sexy, though she seemed not to realize this either, so I told her these things too. But while I thought it was more important to praise her brilliance, it seemed to mean more to her that she was (3)___________ attractive. My experience with this girlfriend exemplifies a common phenomenon in life --- when it comes to complimenting a woman, men often walk a very difficult line. Of course, (4)___________ matters. In a professional setting, talking about appearance is often inappropriate, but at a singles club, it may be important. She will be very pleased if a man thinks her clothes and (5)__________ are pretty, or her hair looks wonderful. However, things in between these two cases are unclear. Women have every right to be recognized and (6)____________ for their intelligence and creativity. But at the same time, they want to be admired for their looks as well, for example, their perfect skin (7)___________ and elegant outfits. Unfortunately, most guys don't undertand this. If we receive compliments from women, they're usually about our achievements, not our looks. Most of us don't expect a woman to tell us how (8)__________ or sexy we are, and some of us would find it hard to regard such a(n) (9)_____________ as sincere. I'm not saying it's very hard to be a guy these days. It is important for every man to understand how to treat women with both respect and (10)___________. But as far as the right balance of these two is concerned, we really have no frame of reference, especially when it comes to looks.