根据以下内容回答题：What is a good listener?Students who feel they are say it is because'they pay attention；remember what the person says；and ask questions based on what the other has said；or it isbecause they like people and are interested in them．They feel they are poor listeners when they think about something else while the other is talking or when they’re tired，or not interested in what she or he is talking about． In fact，there are a variety of ways to listen，just as there are a variety of ways to say something．Human beings are complex and 60ncealing．Often we don’t say what we want to say，or say，exactly the opposite of what we want to say．Sometimes，we aren’t honest or direct with another because we think we don’t have the right or are afraid of what will happen if．We are．The body“talks”，too，sometimes more honestly than the tongue． These different ways of talking need different ways of listenin9．To keep the seesaw going in conversations and in relationships，we need to understand and use these different ways， especially if oui goal is to be a carin9，thoughtful person．By knowing how to listen in various ways，you can be accurate in picking up messages no matter how they are masked or distorted or how they are delivered．Some messages are he．ard just by listening silently；some，by holding a hand or giving a hu9．But to be able to respond accurately，you need to hear accurately． Most people listen only with their ears．Too few listen with their hearts as well as theirears，listening to the other’s，sharing of his or her hopes，joys，fears． According to the passage，listening only with ears may happen to us when__________．